Do you think my brother-in-law is a racist ? Best answer to whom can Who an help me cope !!!?

Your brother-in-law is probably insecure, and might think more of you than his own girlfriend, so, to cover it up, he puts you down so that he can find faults in you and appreciate his girlfriend more. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but ignore him, and remember, you're the better person here. And plus, if I'm wrong, and he really did want your husband to marry an American woman, your husband went against your brother's wishes and chose you, so you win. Hope this helps!